Goodbye, so long, farewell, adieu, au revoir, auf wiedersehen, totsiens, arrivederci, tata, cheers, toodle-pip...
Whatever word used, parting company from a person we love, like, or simply know, is normally accompanied by pain ranging from mild to extreme.
Of course, parting doesn't have to be painful, and is sometimes partnered with relief when we know we are going to see the person again. Intense pain comes with the realization that we will never see the person again. Sometimes the pain of parting may be accompanied by fear – when we don’t know if there will be a next meeting, or what a next meeting will be like.
Whatever word used, parting company from a person we love, like, or simply know, is normally accompanied by pain ranging from mild to extreme.
Of course, parting doesn't have to be painful, and is sometimes partnered with relief when we know we are going to see the person again. Intense pain comes with the realization that we will never see the person again. Sometimes the pain of parting may be accompanied by fear – when we don’t know if there will be a next meeting, or what a next meeting will be like.
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The easiest way to understand pain caused by parting
When we observe a baby’s response when taken from their mother, the baby is experiencing a tremendous fear of never seeing their mother again. A fear of loss, which goes hand in hand with a fear of the unknown, automatically triggers pain, and pain elicits tears until we learn how to bottle them up.
We are all born with the fear of loss and the unknown.
We are also born with the knowledge that our survival depends on our mother, or whoever feeds us. As we grow, we learn that the love and attention we receive from the person who feeds our body simultaneously provides love for our soul. As we mature, we trust more and more people and establish the support system we need in order to survive.
We will notice that the intensity of the pain we feel depends on how much we rely physically and/or emotionally on the person we are parting with.
We are all born with the fear of loss and the unknown.
We are also born with the knowledge that our survival depends on our mother, or whoever feeds us. As we grow, we learn that the love and attention we receive from the person who feeds our body simultaneously provides love for our soul. As we mature, we trust more and more people and establish the support system we need in order to survive.
We will notice that the intensity of the pain we feel depends on how much we rely physically and/or emotionally on the person we are parting with.
Conclusion
In order to handle any pain, it is important to know where it comes from. When we acknowledge the source, we empower our urge to survive.
This urge, firmly embedded in what we like to call our gut feeling, may tell us: “Don’t be silly! You can live without seeing or hearing from X!”
Or it may say, “Yes, your support system needs serious repairs! Let's start working!”
Of course, the wise will repair their support system by strengthening their own independence instead of relying on others.
This urge, firmly embedded in what we like to call our gut feeling, may tell us: “Don’t be silly! You can live without seeing or hearing from X!”
Or it may say, “Yes, your support system needs serious repairs! Let's start working!”
Of course, the wise will repair their support system by strengthening their own independence instead of relying on others.
Quotes About Parting
“Ariel: "Why can't people part on more amiable terms?"
Danny: "Human nature. When feelings change and a person is at their most insecure, it's a matter of personal survival, I think. ― Judith-Victoria Douglas, Ariel's Cottage
“To say goodbye is to die a little.” ― Raymond Chandler, The Long Goodbye
“Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.” ― Kahlil Gibran
“Only in the agony of parting do we look into the depths of love.” ― George Eliot
“I don't know how you say good-bye to whom and what you love. I don't know a painless way to do it…” ― Laura Wiess, How It Ends
“Death and parting are the same.” ― Abbas ibn al-Ahnaf, Birds Through a Ceiling of Alabaster: Three Abbasid Poets
Danny: "Human nature. When feelings change and a person is at their most insecure, it's a matter of personal survival, I think. ― Judith-Victoria Douglas, Ariel's Cottage
“To say goodbye is to die a little.” ― Raymond Chandler, The Long Goodbye
“Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.” ― Kahlil Gibran
“Only in the agony of parting do we look into the depths of love.” ― George Eliot
“I don't know how you say good-bye to whom and what you love. I don't know a painless way to do it…” ― Laura Wiess, How It Ends
“Death and parting are the same.” ― Abbas ibn al-Ahnaf, Birds Through a Ceiling of Alabaster: Three Abbasid Poets
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